I started working at this great company in 2004. I went through 3 Interviews, IQ tests, and one accounting test. I thought I was set since I had been unemployed for 8 months, and the pay was great. The boss seemed nice and everyone there was wonderful, as I was introduced to them. Except when it came to the person that was going to train me. She was quiet and very cutthroat. She never smiled and was very standoffish. She was this tall fat African-American lady wearing a cheap wig. I immediately felt a chill. Her voice is that of a mosquito buzzing in your ear on a hot July night, when you're very sleepy. I kept clearing my throat wanting her to take the hint, but up to this day she hasn't.
Well the training has been the worst, she changes and omits information on her own will. She doesn't give me any information, and ignores and makes fun of everything. She criticizes my clothes. She makes my life really hard and if I don't get things right the first time - too bad, I'm assed out.
I was hired to take half of her workload, but we have equal positions. She talks down to me and doubts everything I have said or done. She's goes through everything I do. When she goes on vacation, I'm her backup. She will change all the passwords, so we have to get the IT person involved. She goes above and beyond to make me look like an incompetent fool, and tells everything I do wrong or right to our boss. The first week of me working there, she invited me to lunch and straight out told me no one informed her of my existence or that I would be her equal. She thought I was her replacement. Then when she comes back she makes sure to tell me all the mistakes that I have made.
She will delete any work that I do. She takes papers from my desk and wont' tell me. She looks at me while I'm eating, or while I am talking to anyone else in the office. She brings it up that I will taker her job, or that they will let her go and leave me. I have done nothing to convince her of the opposite, to the point that I told her I don't like her job and it backfired on me. She went and told my boss. We have had so many problems for the last two years. She spies on me, she treats me basically like shit. Our boss knows, because I finally got the balls to tell her that she refused to train me correctly.
She is making it to where we have to go to lunch on the companies dime to fix our communication problems. It is impossible! This company has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on us with seminars on loyalty, respect, caring and generosity at the workplace. We have catered lunches all the time. We get tickets to football, baseball and hockey games. We also receive concert tickets, circus tickets, theater tickets and free all expense paid vacations to New Mexico for me and a companion (the whole company does). So I can't understand why they won't do anything about her? She is the devil.
The worst part is that she is a Christian. She has bible verses all over her office. God is my savior! This lady is a Christian from hell. You can't say a bad word or anything because she will gasp very loudly. Once she told me she was molested as a child by someone of my race, and I am thinking that is the real reason she's like she is. She is 13 years older than me and my other coworkers have told me she feels threatened. It's not my fault hat she's fat and ugly! Everyone thinks she's an angel, but only when we are alone, her true colors come out. When we are at a company function, she will talk to me like we are best friends.
No one believes she is the devil's spawn. I feel like I can't handle her anymore, and I don't want to lose my job. She has brought up the race issue. I think that she want to use that card if she gets the ax. She copies my way of dressing, accessorizes like me. She always asks me if I just bought it in front of everyone. She wont' eat what I will take to work to eat.
She hates me and no one will help me. My boss wants my to kiss her ass because we need to make her feel more secure about herself. What about me? I hate her. I cringe when she walks by or opens her office door (which used to be a utility closet). Now my office manager is involved and she told me the same thing. I should help her understand that I am not out to get her job. She told me two weeks ago that she thinks I'm going to betray her. I can't stand it anymore. Someone help.
I will post later what happens. I really don't want to lose my job to an insecure, hormonal, racist, judgmental Christian from hell! I wonder what she would do if she knew that her husband hit on me on the company's trip? I really hate her....I really do.
Will take any advice. Desperate for a miracle.
(Posted by Anonymous)
The more you complain to your boss the worse it will be! Dont let anyone know you disslike her. Kill her with kindness.Worng or right its always the person who complains that gets the boot!Keep an eye on your work and dont give her the chance to screw you over.
I agree with "B". The squeeky wheel gets the grease- the person talking about the problem and complaining the most will be dealt with. As unfair as it sounds, that is the way it goes. Sounds like the beast has severe emotional and personal problems (i.e. self-esteem and the like- she copies the way you dress?) She is crying out for help, but I agree with you that it isn't your job to help her out. Sounds like your job rocks (great ticket deals) so you probably just want to grin and bear it until she's out of there. Do watch your back on the job related issues (she is deleting your work! WOW!) so it doesn't look like you aren't a good worker. Definitely would clue the boss in on the task related complaints, but not the personal issues like the gasping and such. At work, stick to the work and try your best to be at least neutral with her. Try to be the ideal employee at least from your boss's perspective- "Nope, everything is great. No problems here..." Just a thought....
Got a similar problem here and am just riding it out until she retires. Unless she does something specifically related to work, I don't get the boss involved.
I totally agree, kill the evil one with KINDNESS. You dont have to go out of your way to be nice, but everytime she gives you information, with a smile on your face, say THANK YOU I really appreciate it. Eventually she will not see you as a threat and leave you alone. Most of all avoid her if you can.
I agree with the above. Just don't even allow her to get to you.
And on behalf of all Christians, I apologize for her behavior. Unfortunately, being Christian doesn't automatically mean we act like we are. That's the GOAL but sometimes it doesn't work that way! It just sounds like she has past issues that have affected who she is. More than anything I would be sad for her. Anybody who makes that much of an effort to make somebody else miserable, cannot possibly be happy with themselves of their life!
I totally disagree! Life is too short to be miserable, especially over something as silly as a job (and a crazy Christian too!)
Sounds to me like you need some type of mediation/intervention meeting. Nip it in the bud ASAP or you will be MISERABLE! One of the tough lessons in life is that when it comes to your job/career, NO ONE will take care of your ass but YOU. You deserve to be treated with respect.
More than anything, just remember how unhappy and miserable she is. imagine how tough it would be to go through life like that!
She reminds me of someone I had to train years ago. She, too, is a Christian in disguise as the devil. She is evil, mean, and hateful. Most people stated that she was jealous of me. She also started dressing like me. I confronted her and told her that I have no idea why you dislike me so much, but we are starting over. She agreed and she stopped giving me the "evil eye" ever since. Thank God she only worked there for 2 years. We are both African-Americans. I think her nastiness had to do with my age (I'm 10 years younger)and my position. I am the type of person that everyone likes to be around. Maybe she was jealous of that. Just stay cool and ask her why she treats you the way she does. Maybe she will tell you that she feels threatened that you will get her job. Sadly to say,it has happened before. Sorry you have to go through it.
I understand totally where you are coming from! It's hard for me to kill with kindness, but I practice. Meanwhile, I've been patiently waiting for new job postings within my company to get away from folks.
Umm, I'm not sure killing with kindness will get rid of this woman or neutralize her, but being extremely polite and always putting a postitive spin, even if you don't believe it yourself, won't hurt.
I do agree that complaining never gets anyone anywhere in a situation like this, and when she's fake with you, be extra fake back.
Meanwhile, don't get sucked in by all the freebies. None of that is worth anything in the situation you've described. In your free time (lunch hours coffee breaks etc) look for another job either within the company or outside it. (When you get it, and if it's outside the company, you can drop some hints about her, but always in the form of damnation via faint praise.) Toxic people aren't worth any amount of goodies.
I too am a Christian, I am also without faults. I try not to judge others all Christians and non-Christians alike judge people on a daily basis. Were human. Obviously this woman is struggling with something in her life. She has to make sure everyone knows she is a Christian to justify her actions. Being a Christian is being Christ like. Jesus hung out with the outcasts of society and never judged them. He always had a kind word for them and helped them. This is what True Christians strive for. To be like him. I have known two faced Christians and it is hard to deal with them. I agree with the one person who said to shower her with kindness if that doesn't work look for a new job, but be warned there is always someone who dislikes us or can't get along with werever we go. God bess you and I will pray that God will bring you a resolution.
You have it made. I work with 2 Black so called Christain Devil women. always talking about the devil, must be the black way. I do not like to say bad things about people but these 2 take me to testing extreme faith. I am a true Christain and a true Christain makes God the priority and do not make the devil priority. I live with these women day in and day out and they are the most evil people. They run to the boss constantly but when I question them they yell racism. You can not win either way. I have tried, so hang in there and wait for her to disapper or find another job, like I am doing. My sanity is at stake.
I've been there. I think it's racism- they don't want to fire her because they are afraid she will sue. I've seen that over and over at my company. They will just move the problem to another department rather than address it when it's an African American. The other people just get fired.
I outlasted the last employee that did me like that. It's jealousy. She did me like that from day one. Eventually it caught up with her. She made the wrong comments in front of another African American. Despite the fact that several white people had gone to HR on her- it only took that one African American to go to HR on her to get her fired.
I am a recruiter at a staffing company for consulting jobs at a big big big investment bank in NY. Please -- do NOT let this woman blow it for you. From what you have written, the company you work for put considerable effort and expense into bringing you onboard. You might not realize it, but that lady's behavior is known to HR and to most if not everyone who works near or with her. If you manage to stay professional and cool you will last and believe it or not, you will be admired by your co-workers. Your nemesis is doing something they need or represents something that management wants right now. When they don't want it anymore or it becomes a liability, she will be eased out of there or just plain fired. Stand back and take a detached look at the situation. Don't let her make you the liability that the company needs to get rid of because of unprofessional or nasty behavior. Good luck....
Why is it that the most religious people are the biggest jerks? I thought that religion was supposed to make you a better person. I worked with this guy who walked around work praying all day. He would pray before he got a drink of water from the water fountain. He would listen to these religious preachers on the radio at work all day at a high volume in order to convert the rest of us. His best moments came when he told the gay payroll accountant that he would go to hell because of his lifestyle choices.
Even better was when he told the senior accountant that her baby was a bastard because he was born out of wedlock and because the father was of a different race. I could not believe he did not get fired and I do not understand why these employees did not sue. He made life so miserable, 3 accountants(including myself) quit to get away from him.
Anyway, if things get really bad maybe you could record or tape the encounters? I don't know what the legal aspects of that are. Good luck!
I can't help, but am in a similar situation. My co-worker is a Jehovah's Witness who thinks her job is to judge everyone else. She says she is a Christian, but she is not. She uses her religion to hurt other people. She claims that because she is religous, she does not lie, and then proceeds to trash everyone she doesn't like. The boss believes her because "religous people can't lie". What a racket!